All About Femdom Spanking & Impact Play

by Ms. Sophia of www.spankedbyphone.com

Femdom spanking and impact play are practically synonymous with BDSM. This type of play is often one of the first things that would-be subs and Dommes try when they begin dipping their toes into the big pool of kink. That’s why more experienced phone sex Femdoms like me know that it’s very important to have lots of easily accessible information about it out there so that newbies will be able to find and use it.

And that, SpaankedByPhone readers, is what I hope to accomplish with this essay. It won’t be comprehensive, naturally, but I hope that this quick primer will still prove to be informative, both for newbies and for experienced Mistresses and subs.

Femdom Spanking and Impact Play Terminology

Let’s start with terminolgy. While most people use the word “spanking” as a catch-all term, the proper name is actually “impact play.” “Impact play” is the correct umbrella term for any activity that involves hitting someone with something. “Spanking,” on the other hand, is a subset of impact play that involves the use of one’s bare or gloved hand to create the impact. Anything other type of impact play is not technically spanking, such as paddling, flogging, cropping/whipping, and caning.

Bare-handed spanking is arguably the most popular type of impact play, which is lucky because it’s also the best type for beginners to start with! You see, a Femdom will have much more control over her hand than she would have over an object. She can judge how hard she’s spanking her sub based on how each blow feels to her own hand.

And the beginner sub will likely find the physical closeness that comes from spanking more reassuring than the other somewhat more clinical and less intimate forms of impact play. (Once both sub and Mistress become more accustomed to spanking, the Domme may choose to wear glovers to reduce the sensation of the spanking on her hand while retaining said sensation on the sub’s ass.)

Asses Were Made for Spanking

When it comes to Femdom spanking and impact play, the ass is the most common area that’s struck, but there are actually several parts of the body that can be used for this purpose, like the breasts (NOT the chest!), the back, the upper arms, the fronts and backs of the thighs, the nipples (perhaps as a form of nipple torture), the feet (which is sometimes called bastinado), and even the genitals (which, with male subs, is often called a type of CBT, or cock and ball torture).

However, I believe that one of the reasons that the ass is the most popular area for Femdom spanking and impact play is that it’s probably the safest place on the body to spank/flog/etc. It has a good bit of fat and muscle covering the seat bones, and there are no vital organs underneath the buttocks that could possibly be damaged from too-vigorous play.

This is also mostly true for the thighs and upper arms. Until a Femdom has very precise control over her impact play implements, she should avoid striking her sub on top of any bony areas. Areas that should always be avoided include the face, the chest and breastbone, the ribcage, the stomach, and the kidney areas.